Urge Younger Women To Love Their Husbands

Titus 2:4
Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children,

New Living Translation
These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children,

Amplified Bible
so that they may encourage the young women to tenderly love their husbands and their children,

Contemporary English Version
so the younger women will be loving wives and mothers.

In this chapter, Paul instructs Titus on how to lead a church. He tells him in Titus 2:1 that his responsibility is to teach sound doctrine. Titus 2:2 contains instructions for older men. Titus 2:3-5 contains instructions for Older women. Titus 2:6 has instructions for younger men. Then in Titus 2:7-8, he goes back to instructing Titus on his role as a church leader. Titus 2:9-10 ends the group assignments by giving instructions for domestic workers. Our focus today is on what older women should do.

Older women must be (1) reverent in behavior (2) not slanderers (3) not slaves to much wine (4) they should teach what is good (5) urge younger women to love their husbands and children (6) Self-controlled (7) pure (8) working at home (9) kind and (10) submissive to their own husbands. Number five catches our attention, that older women should teach younger women to love their husbands and children.

Older women have gone through marriage. Older women know that in the first few years of marriage there is an attempt to change their spouse. Older women know that as marriage years begin to unfold there is a disappointment as to some extent what one dreamt of about marriage is replaced by reality which is not as good. As the marriage progresses you now understand things about your spouse that passion during dating had blinded you to. Older women out of experience know better than younger women. Older women should urge younger women to love their husbands and children!

Older women know out of experience that even if you leave this husband and go for another one, the difference would be immaterial. Therefore that feeling to leave your husband and find someone better is a mirage. Older women know that wishing your husband was like the husband of your friend, or neighbor or relative is a conclusion based on highly superficial observation. Therefore older women are better placed to guide younger women who wish to quit marriage or who are obsessed with wishes that their husband should be like another one. Older women should urge younger women to love their husbands and children!

Older women have known by experience that disrespecting your husband may give highly temporary satisfaction but carries long-term damage to the relationship. Older women know that men have a sensitive ego. Older women know that constantly opposing your husband and using children as fighting leverage is not wise. Older women know that children may be permanently damaged if the relationship of the parents is strained. Older women have seen children resort to drug abuse and dropping out of school as they become collateral damage of their parent’s fights. Since older women know, they must intervene. Older women should urge younger women to love their husbands and children!

Older women know the desperation young ladies are having to get a male friend. Older women know the pressure to get married and as time seems against one. Older women made mistakes that they can see younger ladies are about to make. That is why the Bible gives them the responsibility to offer guidance.

Young women are most likely to listen to older women. Older women should act as mentors. Older women know exactly what situation the younger women are in. Men may never appreciate what women are going through. Men may never understand hormonal imbalance. Men may never appreciate the pressure of running a house, taking care of kids, cleaning, cooking, and still expected to be nice to the husband. Men may never understand the pressure of carrying a pregnancy to full term. Men may never understand the silent competition among some women to outdo each other in certain family achievements. Older women understand and therefore are better placed to guide younger women. Older women should urge younger women to love their husbands and children!

Apostle Paul inspired by God does not give this assignment to ordained Elders or pastors, because they may not go far enough to help. Paul tells Titus to give this assignment to older women. Older women should be held responsible for how younger women in their congregation conduct themselves. Younger women in the congregation should be given many opportunities to interact with older women in confidence. Younger women should listen to older women. Older women should urge younger women to love their husbands and children!

Older women can be evil and destructive. They must therefore be trained and guided on how to be a blessing. Older women should know that God and the church hold them accountable for what happens in a congregation. If a congregation suffers from family problems initiated by younger women, we will blame the older women for abdicating their responsibility. Older women should know, this is a command and not a request from God. They must guide younger women or they perish. Older women should urge younger women to love their husbands and children!

Older women are not to conduct this assignment with arrogance and force. The Bible tells us that they should urge them. Plead with them. Guide them. Train them. There is a gentleness involved. Consistency involved. A personal approach involved. A focus on wanting the best for the younger woman. A method that endears the younger woman to the older woman. Older women should urge younger women to love their husbands and children!

The actions of the younger woman should not jeopardize her relationship with her husband nor the growth trajectory of her children. A younger woman should be assisted to live happily with her husband and to bring up excellent children. Older women should urge younger women to love their husbands and children!

What have you who are older in church done to help those who are younger knowing exactly what they are going through since you were there? Are you waiting for a problem so that you solve it? Isn’t it wise to act before the problem occurs? You too like the teenagers in the church were in love with skimpy clothes and opposite-sex relationships. Now that you too were there can you help them? The couples that married a year or two ago are going through an adjustment period and you too were there, can you proactively help? You know demotion, job loss, and failure by experience, can you help those who are now in it? You walked that path, can you help those who are walking it now?

May God help us to help those who are walking a difficult path that we once walked in, in Jesus’ name, Amen!

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