Husbands If You Can’t Get It Forget It

1 Peter 3:7
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

Amplified Bible
In the same way, you husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way [with great gentleness and tact, and with an intelligent regard for the marriage relationship], as with someone physically weaker, since she is a woman. Show her honor and respect as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered or ineffective.

In the street parlance today, if you are told that if you don’t get it forget it, raise your antenna. Something critical is about to be said that may not be repeated but is valuable. Only the intelligent enough to understand will benefit from it. This is a signal that the information is valuable but delicate and requires wisdom to get it. Husbands, if you cant get it forget it!

If you cant get it forget it, also means that this is not for everyone. If you cant get it, it wasn’t meant for you. If you cant get it, you have disqualified yourself. If you cant get it, just mind your business. If you cant get it, it means it will take more energy and time to bring you up to speed on what you are missing. Husbands, if you cant get it forget it!

The Bible tells us today, that there is a certain way of living with a wife that a husband must know if he is to be happy. Things are not operating normally at this point. Wake up and stop acting normal. Be considerate. Go beyond what you would tolerate or allow. Be considerate. Give allowance for certain inconveniences and unexpected perceptions of things. The Bible tells husbands to be considerate if they are living with their wives. Husbands, if you cant get it forget it!

A husband must be considerate enough to know that his wife is different from him. A husband knows different doesn’t mean inferior to you. A husband knows different doesn’t mean it is bad. Wives are different from husbands and it’s a good thing. They cannot be compared, they are good differently. Husbands, if you can’t get it forget it!

The way you argue and reason with fellow men may not apply here. The interaction formula you had with your sisters and mother may not work here. You are now married. When reality hits it may seem strange and if you respond normally, the marriage will be hard and unhappy, therefore? Be considerate when living with a wife. Husbands, if you cant get it forget it!

In your single days, you could innocently and with no harm intended to refer to all female friends using dear names and titles. You are now married, the Bible says be considerate. The Amplified Bible cited above tells us that, it means to be tactful. You have to ration and tone down your outgoing nature with other females. Be considerate, be tactful. Husbands, if you cant get it forget it!

A husband must be magnanimous. meaning forgiving and gentle even towards those who seem to behave and act like enemies. Be magnanimous with your spouse and children. This is not normal, this is beyond our normal reactions, hence the need to be considerate. Think of the marriage relationship and work to preserve it. Husbands, if you cant get it forget it!

Learn to forget offenses. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Do not report to your relatives everything that happens in your house, it will break your house. Your relatives will use your reports to break your house. Be considerate. Be tactful. Act intelligently towards marriage. Husbands, if you cant get it forget it!

If you provide all the money and it is all spent, you are still the one to provide more. You can’t argue that it is obvious all money is gone. Be considerate. Be tactful. Be intelligent. If you cant get it forget it!

There is a difference between a correct answer and the right answer. If you are asked if the food is well cooked, the correct answer may be no. The right answer is yes. If you are asked if one has added weight or not, remember correct answers and right answers. Sometimes the person doesn’t seek the correct answer, they seek sympathy, support, and understanding. The Bible says be considerate, be tactful, be intelligent. Husbands, if you cant get it forget it!

You should participate in every discussion without necessarily seeking to win and put down the other person. You can be told you are wrong and you do not see how, because you were not wired by God to see things that way, but be sure you are wrong if you patiently listen long enough. Sometimes you may have to apologize even when you are not wrong. Be considerate, be tactful, be intelligent when living with a wife, the Bible says. Husbands, if you cant get it forget it!

Without the support of your wife, even a good plan may fail. Therefore, work with her tactfully and be considerate. Your wife could be the reason why you make it in life or fail. Your wife could be the reason why you die early or live long. Therefore, for your own good, be considerate. Husbands, if you cant get it forget it!

A wife is a weaker partner. Not weak in intelligence and muscle, but the perception of things may seem weaker than that of men. Yet while you may think she is weaker, she shares equal access to eternal life with you. Therefore, we are equal in that critical sense.

The result of a happy marriage is that our prayers are answered by God. A bad marriage weakens faith. A bad marriage alienates us from God. A bad marriage is what being considerate seeks to avoid. May God grant all of us happy marriages now and in the future, in Jesus’ name, Amen!

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