I am Wishing You This Type of Love

Song of Songs 4:10
How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride!
How much more pleasing is your love than wine,
and the fragrance of your perfume
more than any spice!

God created us to appreciate love. We were created to desire love and find satisfaction in love. We need love to survive. The question is what type of love would be appropriate for you and me?

Many things have been said to be love, but a closer look shows that they are not. Sexual relations have been called love making but in many instances, it’s business or fulfillment of duty, anything but love. Married people have been said to be in love when in reality they are satisfying the societal need of having a family, but between them, there is no love.

Being admired as beautiful has been misunderstood to be love, it is not. There is admiration and there is love. When we love we will have to admire, but when we admire we don’t have to love. Expression of admiration gives us a sweet feeling but it may not be love and should not be confused with love.

Having a lady who wants to identify with you is not necessarily love. She may be identifying with you to address competition among her girlfriends. She may identify with you for the sake of the social support that you offer. It may be an economic relationship. Her choice to standby you could be an investment and not always love.

The book Song of songs is dedicated to the subject of love. This book may have a hidden meaning of Christ loving the Church, but that doesn’t nullify the initial meaning and message of love between men and women. In this book, love is presented as we know it and as we shy away from speaking about in public. This inspired book of the bible teaches us about love.

In the chapter of consideration, the man expresses his admiration for the lady he loves. He admires many things about the lady. He admires the eyes and the hair, Song of songs 4:1. He admires teeth, lips, and temples, Song of songs 4:2-3. He admires the neck and breasts, Song of songs 4:4-5. Then he acknowledges that she is holistically beautiful, altogether beautiful, Song of songs 4:7.

The man in this passage pleads with the lady to accept him. He tells her to come with him, Song of songs 4:8. The lady is not only beautiful, but she has also stolen his heart, Song of songs 4:9. You can be beautiful but you may not steal anyone’s heart. We acknowledge your beauty but for one reason or another, the heart is still intact. It is one thing to be beautiful and another one to be able to steal a heart.

Then the man speaks the words in our text today. He says her love is delightful and pleasing, Song of songs 4:10. You can be beautiful and we are all in agreement, but how is your love? Is it pleasing? Is it enjoyable? This lady was beautiful but her love was also pleasing. Delilah was beautiful and attracted Samson, but her love, if that was love, it was poisonous and destructive. Beauty is not everything. Being admired is not everything. Love that is between you two must be sweet and pleasing. I wish you this type of love!

If you love a lady but you are suffocating her with your insecurities, that love is not worth having. Even if you are laden with money and a strong physique. Love must be sweet and pleasing. I wish you this type of love!

You cant love a person and be violent against them. Physical violence. Emotional violence. Psychological violence. Verbal violence. This violent aspect of your life devalues the beauty and handsomeness that we admire in the first instance. You may be highly attractive but if your love is not sweet and pleasing, no one needs your love. Love must be delightful and pleasing. I wish you this type of love!

Love that places too many demands and expectations to the extent the partner is in distress is not love but slavery. Love that doesn’t allow the other person to be and even make mistakes is not love. Love that leaves the other person walking on eggshells lest they annoy you, is not love. Everything admirable about you becomes useless if relating with you is a form of torture full of demands. Those suffering under your care will never tell you because you are always ready to call it quits without discussion because you can’t stand the truth about your ruthlessness. Even if you are the most handsome and beautiful person, no one will appreciate loving you. Love must be sweet and pleasing. I wish you this type of love!

If everything else is ok in your life except your love life, you need to proactively fix it. If your love life is your source of stress, you are not in love, you are in trouble. Are you in love or are you in trouble? Love according to our text today must give you delight and pleasure. I wish you this type of love!

You cant be suffering while in dating and courtship. If you are suffering to any extent, you have not met love. You may have met an attractive person, but not love. If you are persevering every day of your relationship, that life is not worth it. Work towards a solution. May God grant all of us love that is sweet and pleasing, in Jesus’ name, Amen!

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